At this age most young people will be
entering puberty and will be interested in hormones, how they will
be affected by them, the menstrual cycle, wet dreams, erections,
fertility, pregnancy - how it can be avoided, and safer sex. They
may also be wondering if their physical development is 'normal'.
They will want to know about the difference between sexual
attraction and love and whether it is normal to be attracted or in
love with someone of the same gender. Young people will be asking
questions about relationships, when is the right time to have sex,
how to avoid pressure and where they can get more information if
they need it, including the best websites, confidential services
Questions to help you understand
what young people want to learn about are listed in
- What makes a relationship happy or unhappy?
- Why do relationships change during adolescence?
- How can I cope with changing relationships with my family and
- Why do people get married or have a civil partnership?
- What can I do about family and friendship break-up?
- What are the qualities I should look for in a partner?
- Should everyone have a boyfriend or girlfriend at my age?
- At what age is it legal to have sex? At what age is it legal to
get married/ or have a civil partnership?
- How do I know when I am ready to have sex/be intimate with my
- Do males and females have different expectations in
- What does it mean to be gay, lesbian, bisexual or
- What is the difference between transvestite and
- What is acceptable touching and behaviour amongst my
- Am I normal? What is normal for my age? If I am a
late-developer, will I catch up?
- Why do the media show so many pictures of
thin/muscley/perfect celebrities? Should we all look like
- People say our hormones are raging during
adolescence - what effect do they have on the body?
- How do hormones affect boys and girls
- What is the menstrual cycle and how does it affect
- Why do boys get erections?
- What is the menopause, when does it happen in a
woman's life and do men go through it too?
- What is happening to my body when I get sexually
- What is an orgasm and how can I have one?
- Do males and females experience orgasm in the same
- What are normal bodily fluids secreted from penis
Feelings and attitudes
- What is the difference between sexual attraction
- How will I know if I am in love?
- Is it normal to be attracted or in love with
someone of the same gender? Does this mean I am gay or
- Do you have to have sex to show someone you love
- What should I do if I feel I am being pressured
into having sex? Is everybody doing it?
- In my community being a teenage parent is
acceptable- is this wrong?
- My religion says that being gay or having sex
before is marriage is wrong, what should I think?
Keeping safe and looking after my sexual
- What is safer sex?
- Should everyone who is sexually active carry
- What infections can be caught from having sex?
What are the symptoms? What is the impact on your health?
- What is HIV and AIDS, how do you get it? Is it
always through sex?
- How do women get pregnant and how does the baby
- Does sex always lead to pregnancy? How can
conception be prevented?
- Are there ways of enjoying sex that don't risk
pregnancy or infection?
- What are the different methods of contraception?
Are some easier to use than others?
- When should emergency contraception be used?
- Who should be responsible for contraception/safer
sex in a relationship?
- If someone is on the pill, why do they have to use
a condom as well?
- Does drinking alcohol or using drugs affect my
decisions about behaviour?
People who can help me/Sources of help and
- If I think I have a sexually transmitted
infection, where can I get it treated?
- If a woman gets pregnant, what choices does she
- What are the best websites on sex and
relationships for young people?
- How can I find out about local contraception and
sexual health services, and what should I expect from them?
- Can I see a nurse or doctor in
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